tell them to do things that seem pretty obvious. "Go to a movie
together!" "Go to a concert!" "Check into the 'no tell motel' and
have a quickie with your spouse!" The bottom line is simple: "Have
fun!"
If you'd like some clinical research data, John Gottman, Ph.D., world
renowned researcher on marital stability at the University of
Washington, Seattle, came to the conclusion that happy, stable couples
have a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions. In other
words, for every negative remark or comment, there are five positive
ones. This develops what Gottman calls a "reservoir of positive
feelings." We "bank" these positive feelings and they help counteract
the negativity which is in all relationships to some degree.
So, you might want to become aware of the ratio of positive and
negative interactions in your partnership AND in your life. I'm not
even saying you need to reach the 5:1 ratio anytime soon, if you're
not there yet. All I'm saying is, you might want to get started.
How? It's quite simple. Take a walk on the beach with your partner.
Kiss them passionately, "Just Because!" Rent a funny DVD. In other
words, "Have fun!"
Dr. Adam Sheck
www.passion101.com
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